Thursday, May 20, 2010

What's wrong with no kids? My childfree life.

I got bingo'd at work today.

Bingo:
When someone mentions that he or she does not wish to have children, if he or she happens to be unlucky, that person is treated to a number of groaningly over-repeated responses from outraged and defensive people who do not, cannot, or will not understand that other people have different views from themselves. *
- http://www.everything2.com/index.pl?node_id=1522864

It doesn't happen very often to me. They people around me are generally very awesome and supportive of my choices. I love you all dearly for that.

I told a lady at work today that we're not having kids. Basically, she straight up told me that it was a mistake, kids are the best thing in the world and that I'm too young to make that decision. Oh, and I'll change my mind. Excuse me! I'm 27 years old and, ever since I was a small child I've never wanted kids. My teenage years only reinforced this as my only jobs were babysitting jobs. All I did was smile and nod and change the subject as soon as possible. I didn't want to discuss it any further with her as she clearly wasn't supportive.

Kids are great for some people. There are people out there who deserve, want and cherish their children. However for myself (and my husband), they are not in the cards. We want to be carefree and able to do what we want without being tied down. We want to be able to help our families financially. Why should we allow ourselves to be guilted into something we don't want especially by, essentially, a stranger!

Don't get me wrong. I'm not a child-hating, evil she-devil! I still like kids, I just like them in small doses (and then I like giving them back to mom or dad, preferably all sugared up with a new, loud toy). I am going to be the fun aunt, that is my goal when my siblings have kids. I am going to be supportive of all my friends and family's choices, whatever they may be. For myself though, I'm going to enjoy my life and not allow myself to be pressured into something I don't want. It's not fair to me or the poor hypothetical kids. What is wrong with me not wanting kids?

* I just wanted to note that I do not hold with any of the name calling or rudeness that other childfree groups may participate in. I am very much pro-choice in the matter, as in: Your reproductive choice, not my business, My reproductive choice, not your business. I am very much, live and let live and do not want to start any arguments.

3 comments:

  1. I dont think there is anything wrong with you not wanting children. There are so many people who have children and then decide they dont want children or to be parents, atleast you realize that before hand. We are all human and one of the blessings of that is that we are all different and we all make different choices and want different things.

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  2. Thank you for your wonderful comment!

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  3. It's like saying to someone who is a Celiac - you should eat bread because I LOVE bread.

    It just doesn't make sense.

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